DEAR ABBY:"Barney" and I are in our 40s and have been married two years. Barney is a neatnik. His nighttime ritual of cleaning up before bed takes an hour or more. Before we can be intimate, this ...

I'm a widow in my mid-sixties -- attractive, petite and active. I hate being alone. I have a friend I'll call Barney who is in his seventies. Barney's a wonderful dancer and a polished gentleman.